"Sorry about the mess..."

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Scott just hates it when I apologize for a messy house. He thinks no one will notice the mess if we act like it's normal. He thinks no one really cares if there are shoes everywhere a couple dishes in the sink. He's mostly right.

But I was raised that the slightest clutter is a mess and should be apologized for the instant someone walks in the door so the person knows that you really do care about them, but you simply did not have time to clean up for them.

I get mortified when I imagine someone thinking that the normal state of my apartment is... well.. normal. I want them to know that I am aware of the problem and will fix it. The first step is always admittance, right?

I've tried to follow in my family's footsteps of cleaning up the house when people are coming over, but I'll be honest- I get a lot of unexpected visitors. And my house is never totally picked up and clean. And Scott says I apologize like 50 times. I guess this can make people anxious.

With baby coming, I have a feeling that, at least for a while, there are going to be dirty dishes in the sink and stuff lying around and unexpected guests that come over.

So, in preparation, I made this sign and I put it on my door:

(For the record, I saw this saying on Pinterest, but liked my version better visually- feel free to take it).

Rude? I don't think so. Fair warning? Yes.


  1. Sorry but I really dislike (and I really want to use the word hate) the exaggeration in this post. I did not teach you to immediately apologize for a mess. If you were raised in home like I was that was truly a mess you and Scott would understand. I apologize only because it bothers me, but as your post states it does not have to bother you.

  2. My apologies for being so easily offended. I just don't want people to think I am so anal retentive that I don't want people to come by unless my house is spotless. These days working full time and two teenagers it is rarely in a state of cleanliness.

  3. Post edit: My madre is clean and enjoys good company no matter the state of her home. The only thing she's guilty of teaching me is to care about the appearance of my house. :)

  4. I love the sign too! I always apologize when my house is messy, even when it is cleaner than usual, hah! When other people apologize I always tell them not to though, because I honestly don't care or judge the way I think people are judging my house. So I guess to sum up, maybe we care too much about what we THINK other people are thinking and should realize they probably aren't! I loved this post Carrie :)


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